How Can You Mend a Broken Heart?

So I've been doing a lot of thinking and talking with my friend, CeCe and sister Tippy, about relationships and heartbreak and we all came up with some interesting insights.

CeCe perspective goes along with the picture above. She's tired of giving her heart to men who always seem to hurt her. She's tired of saying "I love you," just for it to end in a broken heart. I can agree with CeCe because it does get exhausting after a while and it definitely sucks when the one you love doesn't love you in return or their feelings toward you change.

Tippy tried to interject and say that the man that God has for us (CeCe and I are single, Tippy is not) will come when we are spiritually and mentally ready. CeCe agreed and so did I but me being the impatient one that I am also thought "whatever, I don't wanna hear that stuff I just want a man already" (lol)....but then I thought about what the picture above says:

"If I knew it was going to hurt this bad I would have never told you I love you"

I read it over and over and thought, "what if God thought this way about us?" We often fuss and complain over why love has to be so hard and how complicated it is.....what if God kept His sacrifice and never died on the cross for us. He knew how we had hurt Him and how we would hurt Him but He still loved us enough to die for us anyway. This really hit me hard because I believe that it is ok to experience some heartache due to a break-up or whatever the situation may be, but that doesn't stop God from constantly showing us how much He loves and cares about us, even though we hurt Him and sometimes just ignore Him. So I don't think that should stop us from showing love to others and in the mean time, while your heart is healing just give it over to God.

A Few of my Favorite Things

There will be no "raindrops on roses or whiskers on kittens" but since I'm still fairly new to this whole blogging thing, I thought I would let you in on a few fun facts about me and the things I like. Enjoy :)

1. Jesus is absolutely amazing.....enough said :)

2.I love musicals! If there is singing involved I'm all about it! Currently I am absolutely in love with Wicked. I haven't seen it yet but I hope to soon. I love all the songs from it and I am super excited to see it....someday....

3. I also like anime. A few people have told me I don't look like the type of person that would like anime but really, what does a person who likes anime even look like? I don't know but a few of my favorites are:

Inuyasha

The perfect balance of mixed signaled romance and demon killing, what more could a girl ask for?

Sailor Moon Who doesn't want to fight evil by moonlight and win love by daylight? I know I sure did!

Dragon Ball Z

This show often confused me but I loved the action and Goku's light hearted nature made it all worth while.

Kimi ga Nozomu Eien (or) Rumbling HeartsIn my 22 years of life this one has to be my absolute favorite anime (next to Sailor Moon). The story is just so amazing! The love triangle between Takayuki, Haruka, and Mitsuki will make you happy, sad, and just down right confused. One minute you'll find yourself on Haruka's side, then Mitsuki (some people give her a bad wrap but if this was real life you may find yourself feeling like she does). And poor Takayuki.......I don't want to give too much away but I really think everyone should check this one out whether you like anime or not. It's a great storyline!

There are also a few others I find interesting such as Tenchi Muyo, Bleach

4. I love books and movies! I could read and watch them all day mostly read though. I love the way books smell, feel and just the way they let you use your own imagination. I am the girl who will read a book before it is a movie and complain (internally) about how the movie is nowhere near the genius that the book has.....therefore I will rarely like a movie as much as I like the book.

Here are a few of my favorite movies and books (a few, if I did them all we'd be here all night and I am trying to be considerate :) but if you'd like to discuss them, I'd be happy to share!)

Love & Basketball

Monica and Q's love story is just classic in my book. I can never get enough of this movie. It keeps me optimistic in the ways of love.

The Time Traveler's Wife (The Book)First of all the book is way better than the movie, because you get a deeper understanding of how much Henry and Claire love each other and why. I love this book it will make you laugh and cry. It just proves that love can overcome anything including the tests of time.

The Notebook (The Movie)

Allie and Noah......sigh. I really really like this movie. It's heartwarming to see the lengths that people will go through for love. One of the few movies I liked better than the book.

The Wedding

I felt this book would be fitting to be next because it is the sequel to The Notebook. Although the title says The Wedding, this book took me by surprise. This really has nothing to do with a wedding but Allie and Noah's daughter, Jane and her troubled marriage. Through the narration of Jane's husband, Wilson, you find out how he feels about his marriage and if he feels like it can be saved. This is a great book and the ending almost had me in tears.....of joy of course :)

Fireproof

It almost has the same premise of The Wedding. It is a really good movie and it shows how God can help you through anything :) I recommend this movie to everyone whether you are married or not. I was in tears watching this. It is very very good.

I know it seems like I'm a girly girl who is into chick flicks, but that is not entirely true. I do have a soft spot for love stories but I also like action and comedy movies too like The Departed, Minority Report, Troy, 300, and Interview with the Vampire.....I also enjoyed the Harry Potter series and The Twilight Saga (Team Jacob all the way.....although I have been leaning towards Team Edward but that's a whole other story). I could go on and on but like I said before, we'd be here forever :)

I also have a thing for foreign films, mostly ones in Japanese but I just love the way other cultures do things and I absolutely hate when they'll dub a movie and the lips don't watch the words. Give me subtitles any day.

5. I am in no way, shape or form perfect......and that's exactly how I like it! This describes me perfectly though. Everything it says is me on most days. My hair hardly ever stays in place, I'm terribly clumsy. As of late I sometimes do go to bed with a broken heart (due to a recent break-up). And sometimes nothing goes right......And I wouldn't have it any other way. I love being me!

Well I hope you enjoyed reading this fellow bloggers. I had more but I didn't want to overwhelm you with my randomness. Feel free to comment :)

Random Thoughts in the Midnight Hour

Since I'm awake (I'm supposed to be studying......) I've been doing some thinking and these random thoughts about myself popped into my head

I'm often inspired but rarely motivated......I'm not exactly sure why that is though

I am slowly coming to terms with the fact finding true love may take longer that I've anticipated. I am in no way shape or form a patient person.....so I'm considering this 'time period' a test of my patience and I hope to pass with flying colors so wish me luck.

I think this little 'epiphany' came about because I am constantly wanting and dreaming about the man I will one day marry and how we will love each other and start a family of our own and blah blah blah. I want a family more than anything in this world and I often see my friends getting engaged and married and having babies and I often wonder when I will get to experience such happiness of my own......and then it hits me the keywords there are "of my own" meaning just for me....mine. I can't fawn over the longing and envy (I shamefully admit) that I feel when I see such wonders but their happiness is not for me its for them.

So I'm going to wait patiently because in the past I've found myself trying to rush and even force some things in hopes that it would bring my happily ever after a lot sooner.....but that tactic backfire and in the long run just pushed it even further back which, considering I'm an impatient person, just made me even more anxious.....

"It's a process," that's what this girl says about her attitude problem almost every day in one of my classes. It often annoys me but now I kinda get where she's coming from. It is a process no matter what your hang up is it won't just disappear overnight, you have to work on it just like I have to work on my impatience when it comes to love.

I think it's for the best because I want to fall in love and be married once (the marriage part, I mean, I may have to go through a few thorns to get to that rose) so I would rather take the time and weed through the thorns and get a little scratched up to find that rose.

Hopefully loving myself will be good enough for the time being. So again wish me luck on overcoming my impatience and on my journey to finding true love :)

I love late night revelations :)